We would like to present a little bit more about the second Ultimate Reality discussed in Abhidhammattha Sańgaha is the analytical and classification of mental factor of worry which means Kukkuca-Cetasika. Kukkacca is synonym for worry or remorse after having done wrong. Its characteristic is subsequent regret. Its function is to sorrow over what has and what has not been done. It is manifested as remorse. Its proximate cause is what has and what has not been done there is wrong of commission and omission. It is the mental state of one who repents on whatever misdeeds performed by him in the past, on the one hand and good meritorious deeds undone on the other hand. It is remorse and repentance. The characteristic is subsequent regret over and over again. To be sorrowful in this manner is a hindrance to the right path. Whenever worry arises you are distracted from leading the Noble Path. This mental factor too is associated with the consciousness rooted in Hatred.
However it exercises when such worry really disturbs the person. As we first introduced in strategy of life once, you are given many opportunities to choose between being kind and being right. You have chances to point out to someone their mistakes or worry, things they could or should have done differently, ways they can improve. You have chances to "correct" people, privately as well as in front of others. What all these opportunities amount to are chances to make someone else feel bad, and yourself feel bad in the process.
Without getting too psychoanalytical about it, the reason we are tempted to put others down, correct them, or show them how we're right and they're wrong is that our ego mistakenly believes that if we point out how someone else is wrong, we must be right, and therefore we will fell better or to stop worrying and start a new life. To a large degree, the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live in the present moment of life. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, and what may or may not happen tomorrow, the present moment is where you are-always!
Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about a variety of things--all at once. We allow past problems and future concerns to dominate our present moments, so much so that we end up anxious, frustrated, depressed, worry lamentation and hopeless. On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our stated priorities, and our happiness, often convincing ourselves that "someday" will be better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves so that "someday" never actually arrives. For instance, Society programs us to worry. It’s the reason why we buy unnecessary insurance. How often, as a kid, did you hear something like “you’d better start worrying about your future”? We’ve developed an anxiety culture, partly because it shifts said insurance and the health-and-safety industry. The recession that started in someday is as much as a perception fuelled by media as it is an economic reality.read more
Worry is an emotion in which a person feels anxious or concerned about a real or imagined issue, ranging from personal issues such as health or finances to broader issues such as environmental pollution and social or technological change. Most people experience short-lived episodes of worry in their lives without incident; indeed, a moderate amount of worrying may even have positive effects, if it prompts people to take precautions (e.g., fastening their seat belt or buying fire insurance) or avoid risky behaviors (e.g., unwholesome consciousness to make wrongly action). Excessive worry is the main component of generalized anxiety disorder.
My mom and other habitual worriers don’t develop and grow because of it, sadly enough. Worry is a reason not to do something, take risks, or try new experiences of life. When we worry, we close in and guard ourselves. Get this though – most worry is totally irrational, and has a far worse effect than if the things we worry about actually manifested.
Ask yourself this: What would happen if you lost that job, really? Is the effect of the worry causing you more damage than you would experience losing the job? (Adapt the question to what you’re worrying about!) Coming from form Carom worrying stock, I used to be generally anxious. I used to worry about stuff – stuff that I can’t actually remember now. It’s interesting that I can think back and easily recall the pain of worrying but not the things I actually used to worry about. It proves my point. The peak of my worrying days was about 10 years ago when the ‘dotcom bubble’ began to burst. I was surrounded by the threat of layoffs, and the company I worked in merged with another organization, so the E-Commerce Practice I had built up began to be broken up and fed into an existing structure, and my position was under threat. I worried like hell. I worried to the point that I verged on a total nervous breakdown. I can distinctly remember the eye-twitching, panic attacks and visiting the doctor about my blood-pressure. I nearly split with my girlfriend who is now my lovely wife. It was that serious. I will never forget those days, and the effect of thunderous worry.
Enlightenment
I don’t worry any more (well, I don’t to the point I would say I am a worrier) but this didn’t happen overnight. Far from it; But after the episode I described above, I decided to learn more about worry and do something about it. This is what I did about it. I accepted the worst. Whenever the emotions of worry emerged, I would just accept that the thing I worried about had actually happened. How I did this was to play the situation through in my head, and visualize the disastrous outcome. I subjected myself to a shock, in essence. Once the shock subsided, my response followed. In almost all cases, my response was an action to cope with the disaster, or resolve it, or identify what could have been done to prevent it.
5 steps to control your worry
1. How to stop worrying yourself to death.
2. Get the facts
“Toxic worry is usually based on either lack of information or wrong information,” Hallowell said. Don’t worry about what if, as Dr. Shapiro noted, worry about what is.
3. Make a plan
Once you have the facts, make a plan and take action. Don’t worry about whether the plan works or not, Hallowell said that life is about revising plans. You’re much better to be active, he said, noting that toxic worry loves a passive victim. Stay in the active mode.
4. Take care of your brain
“If you’re not in good shape brain-wise, you’re going to be prone to getting rattled and worried,” he said. “What do I mean by take care of your brain? Obvious steps. Get enough sleep. Physical practices also one of the best anti-anxiety agents ever.”
Also, maintain a proper diet. Don’t self-medicate with a lot of curbs, junk food, alcohol, drugs, etc. He also mentioned that prayer and meditation, although often skipped over in medicine, can really play an important role in focusing the mind and reducing toxic worry.
And finally, regular doses of positive human contact. It’s good to get a smile, a hug or a warm pat on the back.
5. Let it go
This is the hard one for toxic worriers.
“At least you can practice letting it go,” Hallowell said. “Head in that direction”. A lot of toxic worriers do just the opposite. They gather their worries unto them. They say ‘Where are my worries, come back,’ almost as if they fell unsafe without them.”
Hallowell said you shouldn’t try to let your worries go until you’ve handled the first four steps, but once you have, it’s definitely in your best interests.
“You don’t want to carry the weight of the world,” he said. “It slows you down at work, it slows you down in relationships, and it’s bad for your health physically.”
He believes that 90 per cent of the time, toxic worry can be taken care of using these steps. However, if the system doesn’t work for you, visit your doctor because there are effective medical treatments available.
12 things you should know about depression
Find out about depression and how it manifests itself.
1. How many people have depression?
Very many people — about five to 10 per cent of the population — have a major depression at any given point in time, and it is estimated that 15 per cent of people will develop a major depression some time in their lives.
2. When does feeling blue cross the line into depression?
When you feel so low that you cannot concentrate on anything else, such as work or family obligations, or if you are feeling suicidal, then the line has been crossed. You are also likely to be depressed if low mood lasts for over two weeks or if your sleep, appetite, energy, and thoughts are affected for that long, as well as your mood.
3. Is sadness a characteristic of depression?
However, sadness is different from depression. Sadness does not imply feeling disinterested, whereas depression often does. In fact, when someone is sad, he or she is often sometimes.
Quite interested in what led to the sadness. The same goes for grief. As painful as it is, grief — as well as its less intense counterpart, bereavement — does not imply depression. Some grieving or bereaved people may develop depression, but this is generally not the case. To understand depression it is just as important to know what it is not, as what it is.
4. What makes one person’s depression different from another’s?
Depressions differ in terms of their intensity, duration, and the breadth of symptoms involved. There are also different types of depression — some are more biological in origin, while others are more related to stressful life events.
5. What are the different types of depression?
You may become depressed in reaction to a stressful event in your life, such as losing your job or a relationship. This type of depression is described as an adjustment disorder with depressed mood (or reactive depression). Its symptoms tend to be comparatively few or mild, but nevertheless, they can sometimes include intensely depressed mood or suicidal behavior, which means this depression should not be ignored. Another type of depression is major depressive disorder (previously called major affective disorder or unipolar depression), which is more biological in origin. Major depressive disorder is characterized by major depressive episodes. The symptoms of this disorder tend to be greater and more severe than those of adjustment disorder (see below).
6. Are there any other types?
There are other types of depressions with major depressive episodes, and these include depression in bipolar disorder (previously called manic-depressive disease) and postnatal depression. Major depressive disorder and other depressions with major depressive episodes are the types of depression that are most responsive to antidepressant medication.
7. Which kind of depression is the most common?
Adjustment disorder with depressed mood is the most common type of depression. This condition is triggered by stress, usually due to a sudden event, such as the loss of a job or breakup of a relationship. The death of a loved one can also trigger adjustment disorder with depressed mood. However, this is far from inevitable — many people experience normal states of grief and bereavement without becoming depressed.
Which motivates us to Live, live a Happy Life, despite problems, despite the anguish and setbacks we receive? “Whenever we encounter any problem, we should not allow the problem to master us; instead we should become the master of the problem and defeat it.”
It gives simple ideas which can make a difference in our lives. Indeed it is Good, positive and powerful ideas which help us to overcome the difficulties and face the problems boldly. Unfortunately our Money-making Education system is not able to provide it.
Swami Vivekananda Says, “Education is not the amount of information that is put into your brain and runs riot there, undigested all your life. We must have life-building, man-making and character-making assimilation of ideas.” He also says, “If you have assimilated five ideas and made them your life and character, you have more education than any man who has got by heart a whole library.”
Let us remember these words of William James:
“Much of what we call Evil - - Can often be converted into a bracing and tonic good by a simple change of the Sufferer’s inner attitude from one of fear to one of fight.” Let’s fight for our happiness! Let’s fight for our happiness by following a daily program of Cheerful and Constructive thinking. Here is such a program. It is entitled “Just for Today.” It was written by the late Sibyl F.Patridge.
1. Just for Today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “Most folks are about as happy they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
2. Just for Today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.
3. Just for Today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
4. Just for Today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and Concentration.
5. Just for Today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, for exercise.
6. Just for Today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.
7. Just for Today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a life time.
8. Just for Today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pasts, hurrying and indecision.
9. Just for Today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.
10. Just for Today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, loves me.
“If you think yourself Weak, weak you will be. If you think yourself Strong, strong you will be.” “You are the Creator of your own Destiny”
- Swami Vivekananda
Here in the other way, you must understand exactly what "worry" or "hatred" means. We would like to explain according to Kukkucca-Dosa in the Abhidhamma treaties. There are three types of worry people: one who does evil; one who speaks evil speech; one who thinks evil thoughts, and there are evil actions which comprise these three categories of all conditions. An evil doer is one who physically harm or disturbs other people or animals (actually it refers to any living being) through the offenses of killing, stealing, and sexual misconduct. An evil speaker is a person whose verbal actions.
Confer suffering to others by telling lies, back-biting, speaking harshly and frivolously. An evil thinker is a person thinking with ill-will and wrong view. You may ask why someone would think evil thoughts on how to kill someone or steal their property, or why they would want to cause any disturbance to others at all. You may also ask why they would speak in a useless manner with frivolous, harsh, vain dishonest speech which benefits neither themselves nor others.
These evil actions occur because of greed, hatred and delusion which lie latent in our mind. A worry person associated with hatred simply cannot distinguish between good and evil, right and wrong, and truths (Dharma) and Untruths (Adhamma). A person lives without rules and regulations as a person cannot one untrained and undisciplined mind, and being full of pride a person is easy to lose one temper. A person may even commit and encourage others in acts of evil, and because a person doesn't understand the consequences of one action a person will continue doing them.
So you see that the worry person wrongly understands and thinks the exact opposite, they think evil actions, speech and thoughts are actually good, some even think such acts of evil will make them famous. But, let us point out how being notorious is quite different. Take for example, the school shootings in the United States. They got notorious idea of worry and these gunmen wanted to be famous, they entered their school or university campus and went on a shooting preen killing many innocent people. As the news of the tragedy spread it made national as well as international headlines. Knowing that their actions, would make headlines, these murderers felt satisfied knowing that their photos and information would spread around the world, but as they committed acts of evil or worry they did not become famous, rather they became notorious.
When evil or worry news is spread throughout the world, it's known differently than if it was good news, so we must understand the difference, and encourage our networks to show more news worthy information. So, if you want to become famous throughout the world, then you must have good actions, speech and thoughts. Don't be worry by a person, sometimes a person's clothing. It is a person who thinks one is wiser, smarter and better then everyone else but actually it is a person that brings destruction, fear and peril in one wake.
Not only does a person cause suffering to oneself but also to one family, friends and others as well because a person cannot live harmoniously and happily in society. There are very educated people but they possess no morality; they can be called educated bad hearts or worry hearts. Usually these people are the most dangerous for society, nations and the world because of their lack of morality. For example, hiding under an appearance of an educated powerful leader wanting peace and happiness throughout the world, a person plunders others for one own personal interests. When a person was in Darwin, Australia, a person visited ancient aboriginal caves to look at paintings.
As a person was looking around a frog jumped from a crevasse. Strangely enough it was red frog and as a person investigated further a person could see that the soil and walls of the cave were also red. As a person ventured further through the cave a person came upon a small pond that had accumulated from water dripping in from above. The water was full of algae and green in color. Using my walking stick a person stirred the water and another frog jumped out but this one was green. You see, because of their environment, these animals' skin color changed to adapt accordingly. In the same way you must correctly choose your environment and the people that you associated with. You wouldn't want live next to a garbage dump if the disgusting smells are always entering your home, and disturbing your senses. Though you may never go to the dump, the smell still enters your surrounding environment.
Not only will your clothing smell bad but so will you, and it will cause great suffering to you and everyone nearby. So you should stay away from them because their evil actions can influence you. However, sometimes you may not be able to avoid such worry kinds of people. You may not become worry person just by being around them for a short period of time but you may feel mental suffering by being uncomfortable, uneasy and disturbed by their presence, and you may receive a bad name just by mere association. However, the longer you are around them the more susceptible you are to lose your physical, verbal and mental discipline, and this does not bring you blessings but this condition bring you dis-blessings or dishonest. If two or more people compare notes, they each say what they think about the same event or situation because how to stop worrying and start a new life.
In configuration of example, there are three kinds of wise and to stop worrying people: one who does wisely; one who speaks with good or loving-kindness speech; one who thinks good and beautiful process of thoughts, and there are these kinds of wise profitable actions which comprise these three categories. One who does wisely abstains from physically harming o disturbing other people or animals actually it refers to any living being by refraining from killing, stealing and sexual misconduct. A wise speaker is a person whose verbal actions confer blessings to other by not telling lies, not back-biting, not speaking harshly and frivolously.
A wise thinker is a person abstaining from thoughts of ill-will, wrong view, worrying and start a new life. These wise and good actions occur because of non-greed, non-hatred and non-delusion. A wise person should have additional characteristics: wisdom, good character, loving-kindness, compassion, and morality, intuitive knowledge and a good education. A wise man with his knowledge can easily differentiate between good and evil, right and wrong, and truths (Dharma) and Untruths (Adhamma). He understands the consequences of his actions, and strictly avoids causing suffering to others. There are people who have very good morality but no education; they can be called good hearted but blind. We already explained the pitfall of a worry that is an educated bad heart. It's only by associating with someone who is well-rounded with an education and has the qualities of wisdom, moral character and a concentrated mind that we will have the opportunity to gain these good characteristics and their knowledge.
As you see the first two blessings are intertwined because the wise are on one side while worries are on the other. If you come to a folk in the road, leave the left and take the right. The right path is that of the wise. The worry is the path to be abandoned. The loving-kindness of the wise is the path to be taken, only it is worthy of reverence and association. Buddhism teaches us how to train and discipline ourselves by our own efforts by using the following three kinds of training rules: (1) Morality (Sila) (2) Mental discipline (Samadhi) (3) Wisdom (Panna). The first training rule, morality or ethical conduct, is the observance of precepts: not to kill, steal, commit sexual misconduct, etc. Morality allows us to overcome the visible stage of defilements done through our bodily and verbal actions.
However, it cannot dispel the mental defilements. It is the temporary suppression of defilements, just like cutting branches off of a tree. The second training rule is mental discipline is mind control, control worry and concentration. Concentration will clear defilements for a longer period, like cutting the trunk of a tree. This mental discipline is higher and more powerful than Sila or morality. The third and final stage is wisdom. Through insight meditation one can completely eradicate all defilements, like cutting a tree at the roots so it will never grow again. Sila is the foundation of these three training rules. Without Sila we have no Samadhi, but we need Samadhi, to attain Panna. These training rules are interrelated and should be practiced by you at the same time.
Nowadays in the world, many people want to rely and depend on other people like perhaps their teacher, parents, boss or even god. The Buddha taught "self is the refuge for our self ". Upon renouncing his palace, the Buddha entered the forest searching for a teacher to show him the truth on how to attain enlightenment. After six long years, he abandoned his search and laid down a new path. In the same way, we must follow self-training, self-reliance and self-refuge and discover our own way ourselves. If we want to climb to the summit of a mountain like Mt. Everest, we may get advice and preferred routes from those who have already climbed ourselves. In the same way, we are not the Buddha but we can refer to his teachings but it is up to us to discover our own way and walk on our own path without worry and start a new life. If you depend upon others you lose control.
Take a country which is weak in economy, full of worry, money, power, education, for example. If they depend upon the strength of a bigger country, they will be monopolized and it will look like they are enslaved. The Buddha always encouraged free from of deed, speech thought and don't worry about a new life also starting-point of our own a new path of life. No other religion has such freedom because everything is occupied by "god: So train yourself very well, for your own personal promotion, liberation, prosperity and happiness. However, in the Dhammapada had been expounded by the Buddha and there are three stanzas of Dubbacabhikkhu Vatthu and chapter on Nirayavagga.
Verses 311, 312, and 313
311. Kuso yatha duggahito
Hatthameva nukantati
Samannam dupparamattham
Nirayayu pakaddhati.
311. Just as kusa grass if badly held cuts that very hand, so also, ill-led life of a bhikkhu drags that bhikkhu down to niraya.
312. Yam kinci sithilam kammam
Samkilitthanca yam vatam
Sankassaram brahmacariyam
Na tam hoti mahapphalam.
312. An act perfunctorily performed, or a practice that is depraved or a questionable conduct of a bhikkhu is not of much benefit.
313. Kayira Ce kayirathenam,
Dalhamenam parakkame,
Sithilo hi paribbajo,
Bhiyyo akirate rajam.
313. If there is anything to be done, do it well; do it firmly and energetically; for the slack life of a bhikkhu scatters much dust (of moral defilements).
Once, there was a bhikkhu who was feeling remorse for having unwittingly cut some grass. He confided about this to another bhikkhu. The latter was reckless and stubborn by nature, and he did not think much about committing small misdeeds. So he replied to the first bhikkhu, "Cutting grass is a very minor offence; if you just confide and confess to another bhikkhu you are automatically exonerated. There is nothing to worry about." So saying, he proceeded to uproot some grass with both hands to show that he thought very little of such trivial offences. When the Buddha was told about this he reprimanded the reckless, stubborn bhikkhu. At the end of the discourse the reckless obstinate bhikkhu realized the importance of restraint in the life of a bhikkhu and strictly obeyed the fundamental Precepts for the bhikkhus. Later, through practice of Insight Meditation that bhikkhu attained arahaship. In other story Dhammapada, had been talk by the Buddha, so also Issapakata Itthi Vatthu.....
314. Akatam dukkatam seyyo,
Paccha tapati dukkatam,
Katanca sukatam seyyo,
Yam katva nanutappati.
314. It is better not to do an evil deed; an evil deed torments one later on. It is better to do a good deed as one does not have to repent for having done it.
Once, a woman with a very strong sense of jealousy lived with her husband in Savatthi. She found that her husband was having an affair with her maid. So one day, she tied up the girl with strong ropes, out off her ears and nose, and shut her up in a room. After doing that, she asked her husband to accompany her to the Jetavana monastery.
Soon after they left, some relatives of the maid arrived at their house and found the maid tied up and locked up in a room. They broke into the room, untied her and look her to the monastery. They arrived at the monastery while the Buddha was expounding the Dharma. The girl related to the Buddha what her mistress had done to her, how she had been beaten, and how her nose and ears had been cut off. She stood in the midst of the crowd for all to see how she had been mistreated. So the Buddha said, "Do not evil, thinking that people will not know about it. An evil deed done in secret, when discovered, will bring much pain and sorrow; but a good deed may be done secretly, for it can only bring happiness and not sorrow. At the end of the discourse the couple attained Sotapatti Fruition.
Here, we would like to get by explaining methods throughout ourselves, good knowledge, present experience, happiness, loving-kindness, and to stop worrying and start a new life as much as we can do it such and such kinds of present moment of works within our sense of responsibilities. In conclusion, we would like to find out less or more about dependent origination because they are linking together, going together, walking together, and seeing together as they really are. However, we face with worry from dependent origination at the beginning of our life so also dependent on worry arise ignorance, mental formation, consciousness, mind and matter, six bases, contact, feeling, craving, clinging, rebirth linking consciousness, rebirth, old age, death, sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief and despair. The above mention the universal nature of the law of mass suffering which must definitely be encountered by everybody.
In any reason of those methods, they cyclic teaching of cause and effect is the map leading to suffering, the cause of suffering, the cessation of suffering, and the cessation of the path of suffering to showed by the Buddha as below. After all, we would like to explain less or more about those methods to be clear by way of those cycling of all origination dependent upon worry stop them and start a new life within ourselves. When we take meditation associated with these objects of the methods of dependent origination by way of the four Noble truths so also we have been attained the realization of Nibbana as follow with us its cover worry and start a new life as they really are. On the one hand, the characteristic is subsequent regret. Its function is to sorrow over what has and what has not been done.
Thus it is manifested as remorse. Its proximate cause is what has and what has not been done it is wrong of commission. It is the mental state of one who repents on whatever misdeeds performed by him in the past, on the one hand and good meritorious deeds undone on the other hand. It is remorse and repentance. The characteristic is subsequent regret over and over again. To be sorrowful in this manner is a hindrance to the right path. Whenever worry arises you are distracted from leading the Noble Path. This mental factor too is associated with the consciousness rooted in Hatred. However it exercises when such worry really disturbs the person because we have to try to achieve bliss of dharma, bhavana, or Nibbana by way of wisdom of enlightenment with stage of meditation or insight. Let's stop here upon the presentation of group one topic which is called "How to stop worrying start a new life". May all being be enjoys, happiness, bliss of dharma, well-wishes, healthy, wealthy and getting present situation of luxuries thing. May all being be free from suffering, the cause of suffering, diseases, dangers, fears, unwholesome deeds, worry, sorrow, lamentation, greed, hatred, ignorance, and all types mental suffering or consciousness suffering and also all kinds of Dukkha. May all being be achieved from ignorance to Enlightened, worry to peace of mind or wisdom of peace, and remorse to start a new life of intuitive wisdom of enlightened as follow with us.
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